Generational Blog

The Dichotomy of Intent

The dichotomy of intent is simply this: Are you serving yourself or are you serving others? The answer to this question will dictate how you use your skills. Skills that we use every day can be used selfishly or selflessly but they remain the same skill.

An individual will assess a person and see their strengths and weaknesses. They will purposefully interact with that person in such a way that their strengths are exploited and their weaknesses are mitigated. They know how to do this well and use this skill to inspire people to action that results in the best possible outcome for everyone involved.

Leadership

An individual will assess a person and see their strengths and weaknesses. They will purposefully interact with that person in such a way that their weaknesses are exploited and their strengths are mitigated. They know how to do this well and use this skill to inspire people to action that results in the best possible outcome for themselves.

Manipulation

The leader and the manipulator have the same skill. The application of that skill results in very different outcomes depending upon the intent from which it flows. Let’s try another.

A man has strength and power. He has the ability to see the vulnerability of his wife, his children, and the people around him. He uses this awareness to serve and protect these people and make them feel safe. He will sacrifice himself in the service of others.

Masculinity

A man has strength and power. He has the ability to see the vulnerability of his wife, his children, and the people around him. He uses this awareness to serve and protect his ego by ensuring he is the most powerful person around by exploiting the vulnerability of others. He will sacrifice others in the service of himself.

Misogyny

Such is the nature of the world we live in. There are a finite number of skills and behaviors. Each one can be exercised in the service of others or of self. The selfish application is always the one that results in a negative outcome.

But wait! Hold the phone! This means that anything I do for myself is wrong, doesn’t it?

Not at all.

I have had a tough experience doing something for someone else. I’m tired, frustrated, and hungry. I deserve a break so I can feel better. I’ll eat some good healthy calories, move my body some and then sit quietly and breathe. This will take me no more than 90 minutes and I will get back to being productive.

Self-care

I have had a tough experience doing something for someone else. I’m tired, frustrated, and hungry. I deserve a break so I can feel better. I’ll eat some good tasty calories, rest my body and watch some tv. I’ll do this until I feel better. That sure was a hard experience. I totally deserve this break. Just a little longer… where has the day gone? Maybe I’ll be able to be productive tomorrow.

Self-indulgence

Self-care allows you to perform at optimal levels. This results in there being more of you available to serve others. Self-indulgence gives into behavior patterns that perpetuate poor self-image, fears, insecurities, and undesirable results. The stem from the same need and require the same skill and awareness but the results are vastly different.

We are all designed with a purpose. That purpose is always geared toward serving others. The reason for this is that we are also designed to be in relationships with others. Selfishness is not conducive to healthy relationships. Good relationships require selfless service and so it stands to reason that every person’s purpose in this world requires the same.

Use your skills, knowledge, and behaviors for the good of others and you will learn that the natural byproduct is the approval and success that you desire. Zig Ziglar said,


“You can have everything in life that you want if you just help enough other people get what they want”


We all have ingrained behaviors and responses in certain situations. The fastest way to revert to self-serving behavior is to be afraid or stressed. Take time to slow down and be aware of how you feel. Start with situations that leave you feeling frustration, anger, sadness, or self-loathing. Ask yourself what skills you were using in that situation and look for ways to turn that skill around to benefit others.

Learning from the greats

I have devoted my life to learning and cultivating leadership principles and practices. I am mentored by John Maxwell and his world-renowned faculty in leadership, speaking, coaching, selling, teaching, training, communication, and behavioral analysis.

My learning journey has led me to discover that every human is designed for a purpose, that purpose is discoverable, and a life spent in pursuit of that purpose leads to significance and leaves a powerful legacy.

Learn how you can leverage my skills and training to grow your impact and leave your legacy. Click here to learn more.

The 5 Facets of Human Design

Every human has a natural design and when that design is cooperated with, optimal performance can be achieved. There are 5 design facets of every person.

5FHDPhysical, mental, emotional, relational, and spiritual. Each of these facets has unique toolsets that can be leveraged to get the best results. Additionally, all of these facets relate to one another. This means that if one area is unhealthy, the other areas will be impacted and overworked. So the first step in cooperating with your natural design is to become aware of these facets, how they relate to one another in your being and identify where you have opportunities for growth and improvement.

The 5 Facets

PHYSICAL: There are 3 main categories of your physical design that you can use to evaluate and keep track of your wellbeing in this facet.

  • Diet: The food that you put into your body and when you put it in plays a major role in your physical wellbeing. This may seem obvious but there is a lot of depth in this area and it is easy to become lost and discouraged by all the diets, plans, and systems out there that claim to be the best. Learn the principles and laws of nutrition and then listen to your body to create your dietary lifestyle to cooperate with your design and suit your goals.
  • Physical Activity: Your body needs to move to be healthy. Lack of movement results in muscle atrophy, joint stiffness, inflammation, and more. Again there are plenty of plans and systems out there to be physically fit. It boils down to this; something is better than nothing. Walking for 20 minutes daily can mean the difference between a healthy weight and obesity. Do a little. You’ll feel better and when you feel better, you’ll do a little more.
  • Sleep: Probably one of the most underrated aspects of physical wellbeing. Quality sleep regenerates many different chemicals and hormones in your system. Your circadian rhythm plays a big part in your physical energy as well as your mental and emotional wellbeing. Figure out how much sleep your body needs and make sure you get it.

MENTAL: There are several different aspects of your mental facet. Whole books can be (and have been) written about the importance of mental health. I don’t want to go into that part. I want to focus on information processing and learning. There are 3 methods by which we process information and we are all an amalgamation of all 3.

  • Visual: People with visual information processing as their primary style perceive and recall what they see. They will remember how things looked, what someone was wearing, colors, and shapes. This drives how they recount circumstances. When learning new things, their retention is highest when there is a visual element to the content.
  • Auditory: These people will be impacted the most by sounds. They learn well in lectures and seminars. Incorporating sounds and music into lessons will improve retention for them. When recalling events, their descriptions will include what people said and what they heard.
  • Kinesthetic: The kinesthetic processors are tuned into how things feel. They learn best with hands-on lessons where they can learn by doing. When you see someone close their eyes and mime the act of dialing a phone number to remember it, they are likely a kinesthetic processor.

One other key aspect of the mental facet is your thought life. Thoughts have power. Your physiological brain does not have the ability to discern the difference between something happening to you in real life or something in your imagination. You can ‘think’ your way into the exact same physiological responses. This means that what you think has an impact on you physically and emotionally. So be careful and intentional about your thought life.

EMOTIONAL: This facet of human design is built on expectations and affirmation. Every emotional response is borne out of met or unmet expectations. The vast majority of the time, these expectations are unspoken and live in your non-conscious mind. Since your non-conscious mind is incapable of discerning fact from fiction, it is very gullible. It is genetically required to accept whatever is dumped into it as truth. This is why there are so many unspoken expectations. Your inner dialog dumps all kinds of stuff into your non-conscious mind that turns into unrealistic expectations for yourself and others.

As far as affirmation goes, there are 5 ways that people receive affirmation. They are commonly referred to as “Love Languages” but they essentially are about affirmation.

  • Acts of Service: People that have this as their Love/Affirmation Language feel the most appreciated when someone does something thoughtful for them. Running an errand they don’t want to run. Doing a task that they dislike. These are acts of service.
  • Receiving Gifts: This one is not as straightforward as it sounds. The gift needs to have meaning and be thoughtful. You can’t just grab a random trinket and expect to make them feel appreciated. These people can’t be bought.
  • Quality Time: These people like to spend time with those they care about. If you want to show your appreciation for someone that values quality time, take them out to lunch and be a good listener.
  • Words of Affirmation: Once again, thoughtfulness is key. Don’t hand out platitudes. Expressing your appreciation for these people in a meaningful way will have great impact.
  • Physical Touch: This one is easy in an intimate relationship but how do you use it in a platonic sense? A handshake, pat on the back, or a hug will do here. Just make sure you are authorized to breach personal space.

RELATIONAL: How you relate to other people and your environment is called behavior. Behavioral analysis is a pretty old practice. The original practice is from Hippocrates back around 370 B.C. A more modern approach, known as DISC, came about in the late 1930s early 1940s. The DISC model groups behaviors into 4 categories.

  • D – This group is marked by dominant and decisive behavior. They are outgoing and task oriented.
  • I – This group is referred to as the Inspiring group. They are very social and usually the fun ones in a group. They are outgoing and people oriented.
  • S – The ‘S’ group is known as “the supportive group”. They care about their team and will work hard for the group. They are reserved and people oriented.
  • C – This is the cautious group. They are detailed planners and like research. This group is reserved and task oriented.

While the DISC model may seem generalized, it is a way of grouping dominant behavior patterns. We are all a mixture of all 4 types but there is generally 1 or 2 that are most prevalent in each of us.

SPIRITUAL: This will probably be the most controversial of the 5 facets of human design. I have my own spiritual beliefs and I acknowledge that my beliefs will differ from the beliefs of others. The reason spirituality is so divisive is that it drives right down to the core of our being. So, even if we do not agree on the source of spiritual truth, please just apply these concepts to your own framework. I think they will fit most if not all.

The spiritual facet of human design is important because it drives our purpose in this world. We were designed to serve and the only way to reach fulfillment and significance is through service to others. This does not necessarily mean service in a charitable sense. This can be your business. The point is that we were designed to care about a particular group of people and when we serve them, we step into our purpose. Your ideal customer that receives value from your product or service can be that group for you. So your spiritual design has to do with how you serve those people.

In the Christian faith, where I find my foundation, it is believed that God endows us with spiritual gifts. Again, if you do not agree with my faith perspective, please just read into these as tools. Essentially, these gifts indicate how we are most capable when serving others. Many of these might sound “churchy” or overly religious in their label but I will break it down practically.

  • Prophecy: This is a person who is gifted in understanding and revealing truth to others. This could be a contextual insight into the truth of the circumstance that might otherwise have been left ambiguous. It could also be a spontaneous revelation that seems out of the blue. Or somewhere in between. However it comes about, it is centered on making the truth known.
  • Serving: A person with this gift is naturally inclined toward giving of their time and energy to do things for other people. This could be the person that handles the logistics of all the office parties or events. It could be the person who runs a homeless shelter. Whatever the activity, it will be them investing in the lives of others through their time and attention by doing something for them.
  • Teaching: This one is pretty straightforward. Those with this gift not only enjoy teaching others but they are also quite good at it. This is not limited to a classroom teacher. This could be a corporate trainer, a bible study leader, a yoga instructor, or a martial arts sensei. The gift of teaching enables a person to connect others with the right content at the right time and in the right way.
  • Exhortation: Another label for this is simply to encourage or inspire. Some people are just gifted with genuine and meaningful encouragement. Other people are not. It truly is a gift.
  • Giving: This gift is about generosity. It does not require having lots of money. A person with this gift will give even when they don’t have a lot.
  • Leadership: Everyone is a leader but leadership is a gift. People with this gift are willing to take responsibility for the added accountability that comes with leadership. They understand the gravity of leadership and they own it.
  • Mercy: Everyone in the world messes up at some point in their life. When that happens, people with the gift of mercy are the ones that can show up in their life and help them get back in the game without judgment. You can find these people in the counseling fields such as rehab and divorce care. They help people through problems of their own making.

One important thing about the spiritual gifts is that while we may be more gifted in some over others, we are capable to some degree in all of them. Do not rule any out because you are not naturally gifted in that area.


“You cannot get consistent results from something without cooperating with its natural design.”

–Joshua Lee


Let me wrap this up and put a bow on it for you. Understanding and cooperating with your own natural design is the ONLY way to get the results that you want on purpose and consistently. There is no other way. Take what I have to say here and use it. It’s gold. If you don’t agree with my understanding of human design, that’s fine. Expand on it. Change it. But know that there is a design and if you want to get results, you have to acknowledge, understand and cooperate with it. End of story.

If you aren’t getting the results that you want in your life, I can help. Reach out to me and together we can build your impact.

I’m talking to you

Yeah, you. If you are reading this post right now, then you have been brought to this moment through your choices and mine. Out of 7 billion people in the world, you and I have made it to right here, right now…for a reason. That reason will be one or more of the following three things:

  1. For you to be encouraged by bumping into some truth that you already know but needed affirmation that someone out there shares your belief
  2. For you to be encouraged by learning a truth that you needed to know
  3. For me to be encouraged by you showing up in whatever way you are intended

I believe that, through this post, I will serve many. I hope that I will have the opportunity to connect with each of you to learn how I served you. The third one is fulfilled just by you reading this and I hope to also connect with you.

This morning, I watched this video by John Maxwell. This is a daily practice. I watch “Minute with Maxwell” every day because I want to learn from the most influential teacher of leadership principles in the world. In this video, he asks the question, “What is the most valuable piece of advice you have ever received and who was it from?”

I pondered, and here is my answer. Just like John, my advice, or lesson is probably more accurate, comes from my dad. When you are overwhelmed, stop and review everything you know. Stay with me here. The state of being overwhelmed is such that we begin questioning everything. We doubt. We are unsure. We wonder if anything we ever knew was right. So when I say, “Review everything you know,” that list is significantly shorter during overwhelm than it would be otherwise. So this is not such a large task as it might sound.

Depending on the degree of overwhelm that you are experiencing, you will start at different places. I have been SO overwhelmed at times that I had to start with, “I know that I am alive.” Other times it wasn’t so bad and I can begin with what I know about a particular situation as opposed to an existential list. Either way, it works. So let me share with you some things that I know and maybe this can be a list that you use when you are overwhelmed.  In no particular order:

  • There is an intelligent designer (I call him God) and he designed you for a purpose. According to that design;
    • There are things that you love to do (probably a short list)
    • There are things that you are good at doing (probably a longer list than you realize)
    • There are people in this world that you care about deeply (very short list – if not, you are being too specific)
    • Those people have a need that you can meet (same as previous)
    • The purpose for which you were designed can be found where the preceding four things intersect
  • You have thoughts. Day in and day out, those thoughts shape who you are. This is a fact and true for every human. You are what you do repeatedly, and this includes thinking!
    • If your ever-present thoughts are shaping who you are, it stands to reason that if you choose which thoughts you have, you can choose who you are shaping yourself to become.
  • Everyone has the same 24 hours in a day. Some people use it productively and wisely. Some people don’t. I assure you that successful people are more intentional about how they spend their 24 hours than unsuccessful people are.
    • Since you have the same 24 hours as the Gates, Jobs, and Zuckerbergs of the world, you can choose to make the most of every hour in the pursuit of your goals.
  • The food that you put in your body affects the size, shape, and well-being of your body and how you feel physically.
    • You eat every day. You have to. Every food choice you make is either going to improve how you look and feel or diminish how you look and feel. If you’re unhappy with your weight or your health or both, change your food choices
  • Exercise improves your health, stamina, endurance, and mental acuity.
    • If any of those things are not where you want them to be, exercise
  • Truth must be reckoned with
    • If you encounter something that is fundamentally true, you must either adopt it and modify your life accordingly or reject it outright and modify your life accordingly.
  • You endorse your own behavior. Everywhere you go, everything you do, you are an example to others. Especially if you are a parent.
    • Since you are always being an example, you have the opportunity of ensuring that you are a good one.
  • Kindness always feels better than unkindness; both for the giver and the receiver.
  • Gratitude alone can change your entire life for the better.
  • You will always wish that you would have started that thing when you first thought of it a month ago, six months ago, a year ago. Just start it.
  • No one is perfect.
    • When you don’t follow through on something, don’t give up. Just pick up where you left off.
    • Failing is not found in the falling down. It is found in the not getting back up
  • When it comes to personal growth, doing something poorly is better than doing nothing at all.
  • Your brain is wired to notice and pick up on things that you have deemed important.
    • This seems simple but has enormous implications. When you repeat things to yourself over and over, your brain thinks they’re important and starts noticing and picking up on things that align with those thoughts…no matter what they are. Sometimes your brain will even misinterpret things that it’s perceiving to cause it to align with what you’ve deemed important.
    • This goes back to the thoughts you are having every day. Are they good? Are they helpful?
  • Very few successes ever taught important lessons. The lessons come from the unsuccessful. The nuances of success can only be understood and appreciated after they have been discovered through trial and error. If you succeed on your first try, there’s no way to be sure why or whether it is repeatable.
  • You can’t export what you don’t own
    • Things need to happen IN you before they can happen THROUGH you
  • We, as humans, are more alike than we are different
    • Our similarities bring us together and create connection and community.
    • Our differences provide the opportunity to serve one another in wonderful and unique ways

The common thread through most of these truths is awareness and intentionality. You have to increase your awareness of yourself, your thoughts, your choices, your actions,  your reactions, and your inactions SO THAT you can become more intentional about them. Don’t fall asleep at the wheel of life only to wake up and realize that you missed out. Worst case scenario when you fall asleep at the wheel is lasting and irreparable damage and loss of life. Best case scenario, you arrive at your destination but you completely missed the journey. It’s a big gamble. We’ve all done some sleeping. I know I have. But it’s never too late to wake up and be intentional. You can do it. I believe in you!

Which of the 3 reasons brought you here today? I hope you will connect with me so we can celebrate the accomplishment of connecting 2 out of 7 billion people for a particular reason. That’s big. That’s awesome. Thank you for sharing this moment with me.

I Love Humanity

I care desperately about people. Young and old. Men and women. Rich and Poor. Long dead to not yet born and everything in between. Any color, any nationality, any religion. All people. I care about humanity. I want humanity to grow and be grown, to nurture and be nurtured, to build up, to love, become kinder, gentler, more capable, and more connected. I want humanity to understand that it was designed for a purpose and to cooperate with that purpose. The purpose of humanity is to engage in mutually edifying relationships. This is the scope of my life’s work and it is scary. How can I possibly make a dent in that?

I am not gifted in such a way that I can serve all of humanity on my own. Each of us was designed to love and be good at a particular thing. We were each design to care about and meet the needs of a particular set of people using that beloved skill. The intersection of these four things is your purpose. We can’t be all things to all people. So again, how can I possibly make a dent in improving humanity?

I am designed in such a way that my purpose is to help others find their purpose. The best way for me to impact humanity is to help as many people as I possibly can to find and live their purpose because here’s the cool thing. We are all designed and wired with the need for fulfillment and true fulfillment comes from serving others. Imagine the impact on the world if every single human was serving others from their purpose and experiencing that deep fulfillment inherent in such a life. Have you ever met someone living their purpose? They are inspiring. They are invariably serving other people. And they are fulfilled and joyful. Picture that person in your mind. Remember how you felt with them. Now imagine if everyone was living like that…

So, I know that in order to impact humanity, I have to serve as many individuals as I can so they can, in turn, serve other people. I want to create a pandemic of purpose that floods the world with fulfillment, joy, and service.

I am not sure how I’m going to do it. I live in a small town in a small state but I have the world at my fingertips. I will serve where I can. I will partner with like-minded people and organizations. I will never stop learning new things about how to empower and unleash human purpose. I will pursue my purpose tirelessly because by doing so, I WILL IMPACT HUMANITY!

Are you in?

Conceptual Generations

I previously wrote about the generations of yourself. The concept that as you grow and mature in life, you become a new model or generation of who you are was paralleled to that of an iPhone. The important take away from that is that every now and then, you need to release a new version because you have maximized your previous capability with updates and improvements. In order to have room for more, you need a new version.

Today, I am writing about conceptual generations. This is another generational notion that is not likely on your radar as a meaning when you hear the word. The idea is that if you want an idea or concept to live beyond your own origination, you will need to create 5 generations of learner/teachers of that idea.

Here’s how it works. First you come up with a brilliant idea that you want to share with the world. Do you have the means to present your idea to the entire world? Do you have the capacity? With social media and YouTube and such, it may be physically possible, but still not likely. So you spend the rest of you life teaching people about your idea. What happens when you die? You’re gone, a bunch of people have learned some of your idea, but few or none have the whole picture. How do you ensure that your idea outlives your ability to teach it to others?

You are Generation 1 and you need to teach others (Gen 2). For the idea to live on, Gen 2 needs to teach Gen 3. The problem is that if Gen 2 teaches Gen 3 without first learning how to teach Gen 3, you end up with clarity issues (like a copy of a copy). So, Gen 1 needs to teach Gen 2 the idea (i1) AND how to teach the idea (i2) to Gen 3. Now we get to a point where Gen 3 needs to teach Gen 4. The problem is the same as before. Gen 3 needs to learn how to teach the idea. This means the Gen 1 needs to teach Gen 2 (i1), (i2), AND (i3). (i3) is how to teach someone to teach someone else. So now Gen 1 is teaching Gen 2 how to teach Gen 3 to teach Gen 4. That’s the pattern and it needs to go for one more generation to become sustainable beyond the Gen 1 originator. This can get pretty confusing to discuss as is better communicated with a diagram.

Conceptual Generations

So here you can see that Gen 2 is learning a lot and being equipped to equip. I hope this makes sense.

Generations of You

When I say “generational,” I’m probably using it in a way that you aren’t thinking of. This is a BIG word with BIG implications. I don’t mean that in a condescending way. There are many facets to this word and I want to explore every single one of them. Not necessarily in this post, but in my lifetime. Yes, it could take me that long to fully unpack “generations” or “generational.”

I saw a great quote from George Washington Carver recently that goes like this,


“No individual has any right to come into the world and go out of it without leaving behind him distinct and legitimate reasons for having passed through it.”


I have two distinct and legitimate reasons for passing through this life. First, to unpack, explore, define, and share the “generational mindset.” Second, it to use that to help everyone that I can to figure out their distinct and legitimate reason for passing through this life. Those reasons are designed into us to serve humanity. The sooner and more effectively each us can discover what that is and begin adding value to humankind, the bigger our impact.

I am going to start unpacking the generational mindset in an individual way. Let’s sat for a moment that you are an iPhone. What generation iPhone would you be? Are you a first generation iPhone that is totally outdated living as reminder of what has been achieved in the past? Or are you the latest, greatest iPhone X that is the embodiment of continual progress and stretch goals? You see, each of us has various stages in our lives where the old model or generation of us needed to turn into the next big thing. We can experience updates and improvements to our current generation of self, but now and again the updates aren’t enough and we need a new generation of self that can hold the growth that is to come.

When we get stuck in the past or are afraid to grow, we’re like that first gen iPhone. Amazing innovation at one point in time but no longer suited for the level of capability that is possible today. Perhaps you are feeling stuck. There are many things that keep us stuck. Our brains are wired for survival. That doesn’t sound like a bad thing, but it can be because sometimes, to our brain, survival looks like, “conserve all energy, avoid all change, do the bare minimum to stay alive because we need to be ready to run from danger.” Survival mindset and thriving mindset are not the same thing and our primitive survival brain is a “do the minimum” type of brain.

Take some time today think about what generational model of yourself you are right now. Are you the latest and greatest, ready for a new set of updates, maybe working out a few bug? Or have you reached a point where your next generation self is ready to be released to the public? Growth is the only way to stay relevant.

Throwing starfish

An old man was walking along the beach one morning after a storm. The beach is covered in starfish that had washed up on shore during the storm. The old man then notices a young boy picking up one starfish at a time and throwing it back into the water. Intrigued by the boy, the old man asked, “What are you doing young man?”

The boy replied, “The starfish will die if they don’t get back in the water. I’m saving them.”

The old man looked out across the beach and the thousands of starfish and told the boy that there was no way that they could all be saved in time, so why even bother…

Holding up a starfish in front of the old man, the boy replied, “I probably won’t be able to help them all, but I’m sure making a difference to this one.” And he tossed it into the water.

Look for your starfish. Start making a difference in the life of another. We may not be able to reach everyone but we can reach someone.

Everyone is at a different point in their lives and have achieved varying levels of maturity in a variety of things. Your perspective on life is both unique and valuable…maybe not to everyone, but to someone. Share you with the world. Start throwing starfish*.

*Note. Please don’t actually throw starfish. Unless you are saving them from dying on a beach. Thanks.

You are ready. Act now !

Malcolm Bane said,


“If you wait until you can do everything for everybody, instead of something for somebody, you’ll end up not doing anything for anybody.”


No innovation would happen, EVER, if everyone waited until they were “ready” before acting. If I had waited until I was ready, I would not have gotten married I would have missed out on one of the best things in my life. If I had waited until I was ready, I would never have had children and I would have missed out on 6 of the best things in my life. Am I a perfect husband? No.

Am I a perfect father? No.

Am I glad that I acted on my desire to get married and have children? You bet I am!

Readiness is often wrongly defined as being capable of achieving and maintaining the end result. It’s not. Readiness is being capable of starting the journey. We don’t know what life has in store for us right around the corner.

We can’t see the future. But we can make it. You can make your future happen by acting now. God isn’t sitting there holding this bright future just out of reach waiting for you to be ready to take it. He is holding it right in front of your face telling you that you’re ready to take it and waiting for you to receive it and act on it.

Start now. You’re ready for your first step and I believe in you.

The importance of knowing yourself

Today, I have two quotes to ponder. They go hand in hand and they both deal with the importance of self-clarity. Knowing and cooperating with your natural design is the most effective way to be successful and satisfied in your life.


“It is always easier to do right when you know, ahead of time, what you stand for.”

— Unknown


I am reminded of the airline safety presentation. During one part of the presentation, they talk about how oxygen masks will fall down in the event of a decompression. If you have ever been on a plane, you know that they tell you to ensure that you get your mask on before you help anyone else with theirs. They know that you can be of no use to anyone if you become compromised first. This is very logical and I think that given the opportunity to think it through, everyone would agree with the concept. So why include it in the safety briefing? The reason is simple. In the event of that emergency, most people will not be able to think that rationally. So when you know, ahead of time, what is important, you will be ready to make the right call in the tough moments when the pressure is on.


“No one can produce great things who is not thoroughly sincere in dealing with himself.”

— James Russell Lovell


Insincerity is noticeable. When someone is putting you on or shamming their way through life, it is evident. When you are insincere with yourself, you are be unavailable to add value to others. That’s all well and good but what does that insincerity look like? It looks like negative self-talk, a lack of humility, vanity, pride, and many other things. That seems discouraging but it’s not. We all have these moments and it is just in those moments, when that insincere self-interaction is occurring, that we are unavailable.

You were designed for a purpose. Knowing that purpose is an invaluable tool to maintaining a sincere and accurate self-image, which optimizes your availability for adding value. This reminds me of another quote. I know I said there were two but this one just sprang into my mind and it is very relevant. It is generally attributed to Albert Einstein.


“Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”


The fish that believes he is stupid because he can’t climb a tree has an inaccurate self-image and is not available to use his natural design to add value to others.

I think that every person should take a class in introspection and self-reflection so they can learn to recognize those moments when they are inadvertently being fish out of water pouting at the base of a tree. Unfortunately, this is not a class that you can take in school but one you must seek out and invest in for your own good and the good of those you can serve by using the genius that you were designed with. My coaching practice is that class where in I can labor along side you as you discover how to identify, articulate, cooperate with, and grow the genius that is your natural design.

If you feel like you’re flopping around at the base of a tree, reach out to me below and we can get you back in the water where you can swim strong.